Envy, jealousy and shame can be uncomfortable to admit. You might compare yourself with a friend, worry about a relationship or turn a difficult moment into a harsh judgment about yourself. Having one of these feelings does not, by itself, explain your childhood,...
Pressure can build when every task feels like a test of whether you are a good parent, partner, friend or colleague. Even an ordinary decision can become tiring if you believe there is only one acceptable way to get it right. You may be able to loosen some of those...
Getting through a difficult period can involve adapting a plan, asking for help, resting or making a decision you would rather not have to make. You can do those things while feeling frightened, sad or uncertain. Resilience does not require a cheerful response to...
When you are getting to know someone, it can be difficult to tell whether your hopes and their intentions fit. Charm, confidence, nervousness or a smooth conversation cannot establish whether a person will be honest with you. Rather than trying to identify a “player”...
When someone you care about is experiencing depression, you may worry about saying the wrong thing. You do not need to be endlessly cheerful or find a sentence that fixes their mood. Listening, respecting their choices and offering practical help can be a useful place...
Confidence can be specific to a situation. You might feel comfortable helping a friend and uncertain when introducing yourself, asking a question at work or trying something unfamiliar. Begin with one situation you would like to handle more comfortably. You do not...
Caring for someone who does not want the same relationship can hurt, even if you were never a couple. You may be disappointed, embarrassed, angry or still hopeful. You can acknowledge those feelings while respecting the other person’s choice and considering what...
Meditation can be a way to practise paying attention, pause during a demanding day or make room for spiritual reflection. You can explore it without expecting immediate calm, an empty mind or a particular emotional experience. A useful starting point is a practice you...
More financial breathing room might mean covering a repair, taking time for a course or having a little more choice about work and care. Begin with what you want to make possible, rather than a promise to become completely independent of every obligation. Housing...
A friend’s new relationship, another close friendship or a change in their routine can leave you feeling less certain of your place. You might miss time together, compare yourself with someone else or worry that the friendship matters less to them. Give the feeling...
