Working toward a goal does not require feeling certain that you will succeed. You can be hopeful, doubtful or nervous and still gather information, prepare and try something manageable. Confidence is one part of the experience; it does not control every result. Choose...
I’ve finally reached a place in my life where I care about myself. I honor, respect, and value who I am. I’m careful about choosing who I spend my time with and why. I can walk away from things that hurt me and things that don’t feel right. Self-respect can show up in...
You can value your independence, take pride in your work and still want a close relationship. You may enjoy a masculine style, prefer clear roles or dislike those labels altogether. None of those preferences establishes why you are single or how you should behave with...
I got a call from a friend the other day. He said, “Joshua, I met a woman that I’m so in tune with. I feel her energy. Our chemistry is out of this world. It’s wild. When we talk, we completely understand each other. It feels like I’m touching her when I’m not. I...
When someone you are dating goes quiet, it is understandable to want an explanation. Silence can leave you wondering whether plans have changed or whether you did something wrong. You may not have enough information to know. Focus on what you can decide: whether to...
If someone seems relaxed with friends but nervous around you, you may wonder whether he likes you. A change in behaviour can be noticeable, but it does not give you a reliable answer about attraction. You can stay curious without analysing every movement. Focus on...
I recently received these emails from a guy named Dan, who reads my blog: Hey Joshua, I wonder if you can help me understand what this girl is really trying to say to me. I think she likes me, but will we have to wait a while? Am I wrong in assuming that? Any insights...
Today we have an email from Greg, who says he “can’t understand women.” I feel a bit sorry for Greg. He’s obviously hung up on a woman, and he’s about to learn a harsh lesson about dating and game-players. Following is his email to me, with my response after it. Dear...
Today’s post begins with something amusing I experienced recently. I was hanging out with a woman when I looked at her and sincerely told her, “You know, I think you look really sexy today.” She was immediately flustered and replied, “Well, I’m not, though. I’ve got...
So you’re dating an amazing man, but there’s a serious problem. Your amazing man is already committed to another woman. That’s right—you’re dating a married man. Every few days I receive an email from a woman telling me she’s dating a married man (or a man with a...
